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Friday, November 8, 2019

180 from success

As if in direct competition to another article totz+ covered, the atlantic's article "Stop Trying to Raise Successful Kids" caught our eye. Although their emphasis is on raising kind kids, I would argue that kids can be kind + successful.  Why do they have to be separate desires?  Can a child not strive to be both?  Ironically, when you ask parents what their top priority for their children is, 90% of all parents will answer "kindness."  But when you ask children what they think their parents would like for them, 81% say their parents value achievement + happiness over concern for others.  In some families, kindness is considered weak in a competitive world and overall empathy in the USA has been steadily declining since 1979.  Focus has been on building up girls' achievements but unfortunately not also focusing on building up boys' generosity.  Therefore, demonstrating caring as a core value needs to be more of a focus at homes and at school.  The next time your child helps around the house, or shares, or offers a considerate caring thought, make sure to recognize the action and value their efforts.  "The real test of parenting is not what your children achieve, but who they become and how they treat others. If you teach them to be kind, you’re not only setting your kids up for success. You’re setting up the kids around them, too."
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